why can't you just see these good moments as gifts?
I do see the positive, really, I do. It just also seems so WEIRD! I know for the folks here, it's not that strange, but man, for an outsider, it has to seem bizarre. Maybe it's just me
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Let's keep our perspective. She lost the foundational man in her life, quite unexpectedly and quite recently. That's a traumatic, pivotal experience in life.
Losing my father was a very underrated event. It was a big deal. Please don't let people tell you that any of this should be about you, right now.
Hope this doesn't offend, but you must realize this grief won't pass in weeks. Maybe not months. She's already doing better than I was at this point. Be her friend for now. Later on we can help you make things about you and the M.
I keep trying to remind myself of this, and can always use the reminder, so thank you. She has only opened up to me about her feelings a couple of times, so really, it is hard to say how she is doing day to day. I know it has to be very hard.
I am just trying to be her friend right now, I just have to admit it isn't the easiest thing in the world. It has me much more attached than I was before this happened.
It is worth it though IMO, and I am strong enough to do it.
It's not complicated, but it's not easy, right?
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
