Ongoing thoughts...need to understand,and posting here helps.

Good night at a small party last night, good congenial morning, with breakfast, then coffee with a couple of friends. No talk of the D papers sitting on the table.

Shaky moments last night when W thought she caught me in a lie - once I pointed out that her suspicions were off base, we got in a teary conversation about how bad she feels about herself and the mistakes she has made. I told her that it was my impression that she has isolated herself over the past few months while I was gone, and has been very hard on herself, viewing everything through a very negative lense. I do so hope she heard me.

I leave tomorrow for a couple of weeks. Don't know if I should just let the D papers lie there, and let the deadline pass (which means a summons in June), or if I should tell her I will sign them and let her go forward with her decision. Right now it seems as if she does not want to talk about it. What to do?

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012