"I never realized how badly he is hurting in all of this. I have been so focused on my pain and what this S is doing to me, that I didn't even think about how hard this must be on him. I also thought that by now he should know if he wants to try to repair the M or not, but after listening to him I realize I have no right to place any expectations on him."
Nice, thoughts. My pastor always says "Lower your expectations and raise your commitments" so true.
It sounds like you guys have a fighting chance. Keep working on yourself and stay strong. Let him come to his senses. The grass isn't greener and I hope he finds this out sooner rather than later.
Me:49 W: 41 Kids=D14/D14/S10 Married: 15 Together: 16 Bomb: 08/26/09 Currently: separated but in the different houses.