"I never realized how badly he is hurting in all of this. I have been so focused on my pain and what this S is doing to me, that I didn't even think about how hard this must be on him.
I also thought that by now he should know if he wants to try to repair the M or not, but after listening to him I realize I have no right to place any expectations on him."

Nice, thoughts. My pastor always says "Lower your expectations and raise your commitments" so true.

It sounds like you guys have a fighting chance. Keep working on yourself and stay strong. Let him come to his senses. The grass isn't greener and I hope he finds this out sooner rather than later.


Me:49
W: 41
Kids=D14/D14/S10
Married: 15
Together: 16
Bomb: 08/26/09
Currently: separated but in the different houses.