I've been thinking a lot about the definite possibility that STBX planned virtually every step to leave our family in order to wind up with OM/her boss. It seems to be the only thing that really makes sense. It makes me feel even more betrayed and disrespected. She literally put a 9 year plan in place that would allow her to leave her family etc and somehow come out smelling like a rose - at least with our kids. I suppose, in some ways that's a good thing. The less they know, the better off they will be in the future. This is a little weird, but I also give her some credit for waiting all those years to achieve her dream, and only left when she felt the kids were at an age where it would ok.
The more I understand about how and why things happened, the more closure I get and the easier it makes to move forward. I still have moments of sadness and "what if"s, since I know we could have had a beautiful life time together, but I also know that would have never been possible with her heart and soul with OM.
It's been one heck of a 6 year ride since I first posted here, but there were lots of good days in those years and there will be lots more in the second half of my life. I would love to find someone to share that life with and would love to have someone treat me like someone very special to them.
