In answer to Beatrice, I am tired and I can feel my reattachment over the past month but on the other hand I also feel incredibly strong because I know I am. I have the capacity to care for H and still look out for me atm. H most definitely feels, as you say, most inadequate and yes ow is probably very needy. H shouldn't feel as he does, but I can only support him. He needs to continue to do the work himself. OW is his crutch and this is the way I am trying to view her atm. He needs her but it seems he needs me more if that makes sense. Time will tell!!
