I think last Feb I was detached and that's when H invited me to dinner. I have been more attached since then and yes, at risk of being hurt. However, I have been discussing this with my therapist and she has provided me with some very insightful comments regarding MLC and my H.
If I consider my position now compared to this time last year we have made significant progress and H is delving into the mess of the past years significantly. His r with ow continues to be a once a week catch up and he has broken off with her several times. He is moving forward in reconnecting with my family as well. I have decided in consultation with my therapist that I can continue this for 90 days.
Perhaps I can't reconnect without that detachment and that course of action is valid but at the moment H is confiding in me and has developed greater trust in me and I want to keep standing by him for now (as a confidante). While my illness was incredibly challenging I cannot overlook the impact it had on him and the significant care he gave me when I most needed it. Not sure this makes sense but in my head it does for now.
