wife having affair - please help

[facingdivorce]

So more journaling. I have definately flipped a switch about two weeks ago and have definately distanced myself, but i think too much. I really dont care what happens, and in the back of head there is a warning light blinking. I need to find balance in how i feel

Small steps in the last week from my wife. She has said thanks in her notes , she wasnt saying that before and doesnt seem angry. Her voice since this began became higher, more tense and aggitated, angry. Yesterday, when i picked up the kids, she sounded , i dont know a bit sad, but more like my wife , gentler.She has even sent some non essential text messages as well. She also drove by our old home with d8 the other day. We only left it 18 months ago to buy the big new house. In the old house we were happy and she only worked part time. To afford the new big home, she had to go full time and well the rest is known. We are definately a cautionary tale.

Anyway we have quite a bit of spare furniture in the garage as our holiday home sold, so i am picking it up, and she has been helpful.

So i dont know what this means. D8 said om has not been around since i outed him....and wife hasnt travelled now for three weeks its the most still she has been in years.

Perhaps they are nano steps, not baby steps, perhaps it is the calm before the storm ( ive become pessimistic, whereas i was always positive), i have lost confidence in my intuition through this.

Anyway another week, we learn more, but no more distance as i will become the was here.