Good to hear you are piecing HBH. I hope the MC will help you. My H and I benefited tremendously from the Retrouvaille program. Don't know where you are located, but there are Retrouvaille groups all over the world. Check the website for more info, www.helpourmarriage.org. We had tried MC, but it didn't take us far enough. It dragged on week after week and after a while seemed pointless.
The weekend format of Retrouvaille and the structure of the program made all the difference in our lives. The taught us to communicate with each other, and to get behind the walls we had built up. All without a third party in any of our conversations! It was a miracle for us. We are now married 31 years. Our Retrouvaille weekend was 3 years ago, and we have been doing fine ever since!