Words get in the way

[gutwrenching]

My opinion is you will not truly be piecing as long as OW is involved. You might be close, but will never be more than close as long as there is a 3rd person in the R.

Why can't you talk about the R...probably for you because you know there is another person involved and for him because he is getting needs me by this other person.

You are at a standstill you say...so try something different.