After W's meeting with lawyer she wants to work on a collaborative divorce, instead of mediation or standard opposing lawyers. A collaborative divorce seems like a good option to me but I don't want to get divorced.

I don't know if I should agree to D, get a lawyer and move forward in a collaborative D or say I don't want a D so you can file on your own and come back with my own lawyer who will fight it out.

I know this isn't really about DB'ing but is aggreeing to a D compatible at all with DB'ing?

Married 15 years
3 children 13, 12, 10
1st D bomb Jan 09
2nd D bomb Feb 11
I moved out June 11