this is pursuit and challenging his choices, and he'll simply defend those choices. Don't bother TELLING him or arguing with him about what he's going to miss.
He has to find this out for himself. Sorry but there are no "words" from you that will make the difference. Spend this energy on your 180s and GAL, and ACTIONS and TIME passing, will either get to him or fail. But at least you'll be doing your work that much faster. Please, spare yourself this. No WAS has been "talked into" staying if they want out. Set him free. In time the good memories and the loss of you, wiil surface in him and that's the only way.
Trust that you once had something of value. If you did, he'll remember. And he'll miss it. And he'll work to get it back. But don't try talking him into this. It only cements their resolve and you want him to have doubts, NOT defending himself or making an effort to shut out your parental tone. He has an inner voice, don't shut it down with your parental voice with him. Make sense?
Give him space. He may find his way back to you.
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