Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

Good and bad day. I found out a friend (one of the girls I talked about in earlier threads who H and I took under our wings when she was younger and her dad was cheating on her mom, but would come back and then do it again, etc), she and her soon to be husband got an apartment that happens to be 3 doors from H and OW. I feel so bad for her. She looked up to H and really relied on him, but now...she has to see him doing what her dad did.

It also hurt me a lot because it made everything more real. I know in my head that H has been cheating on me with OW for years, but I never had proof because no one ever saw them doing anything more than being somewhere at the same time. She saw them kissing so it just hurts all over again.

The good is that I got an unexpected stipend from work. Since they can't give us raises, they did give us a one time "bonus" so that was a nice surprise and extra.

Still nothing from L so that has me down a little because I really am tired of waiting.

[ClingingToHope]

Yes. That hurts no matter how much you knew deep down. I remember the day I went by my house and STBXW's "friend" was mowing the grass.

I still don't know for a fact they are an item.

A lot of people on these boards have gone through so much worse.

My "D" day now is June 10.

[awest1217]

Fun weekend, although still nothing from the L. I am hoping that means it is all being processed and no hearing.

Friday I did yard work all night, but the house looks good. All that is left is to plant flowers, but I am doing that this weekend so S can help. I also need to trim some shrubs.

Saturday I went shopping and got a few things for S, the house, and myself. I got most of the stuff for me at Goodwill so that was a good bargain. Then I spent some time chilling and went to my brother's at night.

Yesterday was good. My sister is trying to hook me up with a guy who goes to another church, but comes to ours to help out a lot. He is a former student so a little strange although he graduated 2 years ago, he is very young for me. My sister is acting like a high school girl, making him sit by me, etc. She says he likes me, but I am figuring not so much by his actions. Not a problem with me because we are friends, but still awkward because at church I am well known and so once everything is official I will be most eligible female so everyone is watching me to see who I will date, and some are trying to live vicariously through me. lol

Ah...dating...it is going to be a fun ride and definitely interesting. I will say one thing. I am open to going on one date with pretty much anyone (I have a few exceptions), but I definitely am not going to work for the date. If a guy likes me, he has to make it known, and has to be willing to flirt with me without a problem because I was a big flirt before H and am excited to do that again.

Another fun weekend planned with a cookout Saturday at my friend's house, cookout Sunday at my house, and a grad party Monday. Next week Friday i am having a girl's night at my house and after that just summer fun.

[awest1217]

IT IS OVER!!!!!

I am happy and sad. I just got the phone call this morning at 7:30 that everything was signed and no hearing. I am so thankful for that and happy that the last two years are finally over. I am also excited for the new part of my journey, but at the same time...I am sad because I never wanted this. Very confusing, but I am going to choose to look on the positive side.

Time to MOVE ON! Funny thing is that my students are all taking their last chapter tests today so I dressed up extra nice so I could wear my awesome shoes that I normally wouldn't wear at work, but I wanted to show them to some friends. Now I am glad because it makes me have more confidence and feel really good about myself.

[awest1217]

IT IS OVER!!!!!

I am happy and sad. I just got the phone call this morning at 7:30 that everything was signed and no hearing. I am so thankful for that and happy that the last two years are finally over. I am also excited for the new part of my journey, but at the same time...I am sad because I never wanted this. Very confusing, but I am going to choose to look on the positive side.

Time to MOVE ON! Funny thing is that my students are all taking their last chapter tests today so I dressed up extra nice so I could wear my awesome shoes that I normally wouldn't wear at work, but I wanted to show them to some friends. Now I am glad because it makes me have more confidence and feel really good about myself.

[mishka422]

Happy and sad for you at the same time. You are a very strong woman and will thrive now that you no longer have this albatross around your neck.

Best wishes! Enjoy the fun shoes!!!

[BeingMe]

Now I am glad because it makes me have more confidence and feel really good about myself.

Shoes can do that.

I am sorry about your final decree of divorce, but am glad for you that it is over. Things can only get better from now on.

Let the flirting begin.

[ClingingToHope]

I know exactly how you feel. Is this it or is there some final court thing that has to be done before it's official?

[Golfgirl1]

It can all be done via computer and you can get your papers online as well.

[awest1217]

CTH-I am done. When XH and I signed the papers we also signed a waiver of hearing paper, and so the judge just signed the papers and we are done. No court, nothing. The papers are being sent to me from my L and that is that.

It does feel like a weight has been lifted so that is good, but not that much of a weight because I really think once everything was settled with XH and I, it was over to me.

Flirting will definitely begin, but now to find some guys to flirt with...that is the problem. Not many single guys in my world, but we will see. Very excited to the openness in my future.