Still Moving Forward

[Augtan]

OMG..I was so mad for you as I was reading what happened!! I totally understand how you feel and I would have done the same thing. I know people say that you can't control all this and that you have to let your kids have their relationship with the other parent and such...but here is my take on all this crap..

These women these MLC'ers choose are pure trash...I don't want my daughter exposed to trashy women, thinking that, that is okay and right...they are sluts who slept with and maybe even still are sleeping with a married man..I don't want my daughter or son around a woman who has these values, morals, and I don't want them to have that as an example in their life.

My job as a mother is to protect my kids as much as possible, I know you can't do it all the time. They are going to go to school and hear awful stuff, they will be exposed to crap on TV, the internet, etc...but do the people around them and the ones they are interacting with on a regular basis as adult examples, as people shaping and moulding them have to be these pieces of garbage women who are home-wreckers???

I don't believe so and I fought and fought to keep my kids away from it, I moved 700 miles away from them(XH and OW) so my kids wouldn't be around her or him as he is a piss poor example of a man and what a husband and father should be, he lies, he cheats, he disrespects, etc...that is not at all what I want my kids to think is okay and good. I coudln't just sit back and let my kids be exposed to all that, it was really bad in the community where we lived, contagious really..two of my best friends had it happen to them before me. I just couldn't let my kids think this behavior was "normal" and such. It makes me so sick. I am lucky that OW#1 is gone and is getting married to someone else this summer, OW#2 which actually happened after we were divorced, but were getting back together, is in and out of the picture, she is worse than OW#1 and I will not be letting my kids go down to visit him this summer because of this and because he doesn't have proper living conditions for them.

I feel for you and I know my actions were extreme, I just knew myself and I knew if I stayed there I would never, ever have peace, I knew I would do something I would regret and I knew I couldn't watch who I considered MY husband regardless of the martial status, be with such horrible women!! I know they will all get their's in the end and I know I can't control who he chooses, who he dates or anything to do with him, but I have been successful in limiting who my kids have been around. But, I have watched my fiends go through what you are and I get so upset for them, it really s*cks big time. Hang in there and sorry for the long post, but this stuff, when it involves the OW's just makes me upset!

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