Punkin, He's not angry w/you, but with himself and his life and what he's done and where he thinks he should be today. It's him and his guilt that he can't run from. He knows that he screwed up and has lost a lot of wonderful companionship, etc., but he's unable to bring himself to admit that he screwed up. His pride is driving his train, which in turn, makes him very angry.
My xh was an angry, hateful man for about 6 years and periodically now spits, but I've learned to speak my peace and I do not back down any longer. That's one nice thing about divorce, once you've gotten your balance, you do not have to take their bs any longer and can go nc, if it suits you.
So ask God to help him find himself and show him the way. That's all you can do. His anger will die down one day when he least expects it and that's when he'll realize what he's lost. But, in the meantime, live your life to the fullest...you are a beautiful person and never forget that.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
