Later in the night, after a good, fun visit (well, I'm not sure if he loved doing the dishes), I swatted at him with the broom and asked if he ever wants to just have a fight/have it out about how stupid all this is. Before anyone freaks, it was not an intense/drama filled thing. He said yes, well, not fight/you'd have that part, more just what an idiot I am.
This made me smile. My parents used to do something similar when one of them needed to have a serious convo, but did not want to blindside the other.
If I had this opportunity, I’d bring it up toward the end of a visit when there was time to talk, but not dwell. It will probably be a heavy thought provoking convo and I’d want sometime alone afterward to think. I’d want to enter the conversation relaxed, not keyed up and defensive from some stressful situation. So I’d try and set the stage and keep the convo neutral to friendly, without confrontation. Surprise him and not fight.
Consider the source here, I have not been very successful following this type of advice in my sitch.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
