Tweaks, 25? LOL... I think we can pin point some MAJOR renovations for my part.
It really was a good conversation. It also included me saying that I completely agreed with W that D8 should see a counselor and that I felt D13 would probably benefit, as well. W said she'd set it up for them. I said even if it was just two or three sessions each and W agreed.
I am completely with you 25, when you say, "keep the road home paved and smooth". While we aren't there, we're certainly at a point where some of the foundation work is beginning. My Aunt and Uncle who had quite a bitter divorce (he was a WAH and had an affair) finally became friendly enough that they could have probably worked things out, although he was in a relationship when they finally became civil. Aunt lived in bittersville for easy 20 years. Point being, eventually I think everyone who Ds come to a spot where what brought them together in the first place becomes more prominent than that which tore them apart.
Time DOES heal. And working on positive changes in ourselves helps speed up that process. Maybe... one day...
I truly believe that what happened in my W to have this change of heart was HUGE and had nothing to do with me. Quite the contrary, she was quite angry with something she thought I did and still took the high road and agreed to be less restricting. Most likely concerns about the kids and more specifically about D8.
In the mean time, I will take these next two days to really spend quality time with D8, as it will just be her and I.
