Detach Dog

[islander]

9,
Our sitchs continue to follow one another.

However, there is nobody in the pic for me right now, but I am open to it.

It sounds like you have, just be very honest with whoever you are with. Don't get caught up in the moment and say something you don't mean.

My W appears to have moved on, and inorder for me to really GAL, I need to do the same. This is for me, and I thi k that is why you are doing what you are doing.

I was thinking about it today. I thi k I have causes myself more pain lately by trying to hang on to something I don't, and my never have again.

Remeber what you have learned, how you have grown, and don't change for
somebody else.

If your W sees you moving on, maybe she will have a change of heart, maybe she won't. At this point, I wouldn't be doing things to get a reaction out of her. Do things for you. This is your time.

And tbh, even though I feel that I am finally moving on, if my W came back and started to make changes for us, I think I would have to give it a go. BUT, I realize the more time that passes, the less likely that is to happen or I am likely to want my W back in my life.

The farther down that road we go, the less likely I think we are to want our W.

But we have to go down that road.

A couple months from now if my W wants to R, I could see that happening. A year from now...if I was in a new R, I would not want to hurt somebody the way I was hurt.

Go slow, be honest, and have a good time, for the right reasons. And I will share a quote with you that applies to all of us:

"Failures do what is tension relieving, while winners do what is goal achieving."