I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[ClingingToHope]

Great time at church group last night -- and church_31 was not there -- instead it was just five regulars, none of the new people so everyone was willing to share.

A guy in the group is divorced and getting remarried to another lady in the group. I've become really good friends with both.

He was married years ago and was largely absent from his daughter's life. She graduated high school last week and is going to Iowa.

The graduation and the fact he's getting remarried really shook him up. He's dealing with anger and depression issues that he's buried for years.

He said he envied me because I spend so much time with my girls. He missed that and he apologized to her for being angry during so much of her childhood.

I mostly talked about the up-and-down week I've had and how I just want to keep things simple, live unafraid and without anger.

When it was over I felt much better. Interestingly, the group questions centered around trying to change by yourself versus trying to change with help.

Trying to change myself didn't work for me. I tried to save the M by myself. I never reached out.

Having these people on Thursday, the divorce classes on Tuesday and even this site have really helped.

BTW, one of the people in the group does family law and explained to me why someone has to be at the "Prove-Up." Someone needs to be there to say, yes, I am a party in this action and yes, we have agreed and yes, we want a divorce."

The person in the group said really it's in STBXW's best interest to be there since she doesn't have counsel.

I hope she goes. If not, I will because I need this to be over.