Hey BA, I agree...and I never should have paid for 6 months in advance. But am starting to think this is good "practice" for what I want and what I don't want. When its not depressing, its kind of comical. And I'm finding really interesting is that because I've had dates with 4 different men, I don't have to put stock in any one of them. I'm reading a really interesting book recommended by my IC...its called "Attached. The Science of Adult Attachment" and it talks about three relationship types: Anxious, Solid and Avoidant. It talks about how Anxious people tend to match up with Avoidant ones (will he/she call, overanalyzing everything, very sensitive...) and the Avoidants are distancing. It says that MOST people in the dating world are Avoidants, because they don't have the "glue" to hold relationships together and are always looking for the next, best, thing. I bet a lot of us on this site tend toward anxious and our strayed spouses avoidant. That if you are anxious, the best thing to do is to casually date several people until you meet the right one. It keeps you from getting involved with someone until you know they are right for you...kind of how to protect your heart a little and not fall for someone who comes on strong then distances...
So, I've changed the focus of this dating site thing. Its timeconsuming and weird, but have decided to have a couple of dates with someone, not get physically involved (so for most guys, it will probably end after a couple of dates ;), and look for certain qualities that might be healthier for a solid relationship in the future.
