Detach Dog

[ninelives]

As always great advice. The OM? Yes it is MY ego for sure. Something Im working on with varied success. I have made some babysteps in that dept and i will get over that eventually.

YOur advice doesnt fall on deaf ears even if that is the perception by you. I read EVERYTHING you post and try and apply it. I WILL get there thanks to you in large part.

I DIDNT want my boys to feel guilty at the concert. They cant help how they feel. I think its normal for them to want US to experience things like that together especially since this is only their second concert and the first one was last Augest where we went as a family.

They are seeing a new dad that is not down in the dumps anymore, that time is over. I still get down but not infront of them.

Id say that things are ok right now, even found myself singing to myself while getting my banking done yesterday and still strangely have more money at the end of the month than I did when we were together with her income.

The girl loves to spend.

Looking forward to taking new car on long drive and seeing my parents. Dont know how many visits I have left with them. My father depresses me though. Love him , and I have forgiven him, but he did RUIN my mother's life with his constant cheating and pissed away all family money on his bimbos over the years. Parents are basically on Welfare and live paycheck to paycheck with no savings. They had money. Its a long story.

All my dad doesn now is lament over his choices in life and has MS really bad. Is bedridden and a shadow of the man he was.

But I only see them a few times a year so I try and make the best of it with them. Wife hated the visits and even stopped coming down near the end.

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