True, I recognize the wisdom you have written that you must have gleaned from talking to some of the cartoon characters.
I have always felt that db gives you tools to navigate through life. It is a kind of roadmap, if used correctly.
But in my little mind, the biggest and most important part of it is the letting go.
I mean really and truly letting go.
For me it meant feeling the hurt and anger, working through it and then releasing it. Because to hold onto it, stops you from moving forward.
It meant giving myself permission to feel that I might hate what my xh has done and the way he's done it, but, that was his choice. I would have made a different one.
It means that if I truly say I love him, then I love him enough to let him go.
It means placing it all in God's hands.
It means moving forward in my life without regard to what he is doing or saying.
It means forgiving him for me.
It meant not expecting an apology or contrition from him.
True, my xh has told me he is sorry. He has told me he should have done things differently. He has told me I didnt deserve to be hurt.
Nice to hear, but, doesnt change my direction.
No one knows what the future holds. I know which way I'm going. If one day he decides to look in my direction, well, depending on where I am, I will figure it out then.
It is only when we really and truly let go without any strings attached, that we find peace.
