It's an odd thing we seem to fear letting go, even though for all intents and purposes they are already gone.
Do we really (rationally) believe that if we let go and move forward and GAL detach and start being happy, that Suddenly, they'll say "OMG LBSer is happy and moving forward so it must have been right for me to want out and now I'll never go back to them...???? I mean, wow, that makes very little sense.
At the start of all this, it was as if I thought showing our pain and suffering would remind the WAS of our love and therefore they'd come home, (INSANITY ON OUR END) even when it fails over and over...even when it pushes them away, even when it makes US Feel uncomfortable with ourselves and even when our own family & friends tell us to stop moping and to move forward and Detach...even then...it takes something within us to finally get it.
yep, been there, done that. But I learned. And I won't repeat that mistake...b/c God, how I learned...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
