Tough Love

[Queen_of_Swords]

I understand you're likely feeling angry and sad.
However your self defeating language here will not gain you anything.

Your thoughts and your beliefs create your reality.
What can you think, what can you do today to make things better for you? What can you do to be good/kind/loving to yourself?

I was told this early on and I'm not claiming it's easy to do. It's hard to put the focus on you and bootstrap yourself to a better place mentally.

Your mind wants to continually drift to how your partner hurt you, what they did, you wonder what they were/are thinking...all of it.

Stop.

It doesn't profit you and only [censored] you down into a sense of helplessness and despair.

You've made mistakes. That's how we learn. Own them. If she said something about your behaviour or your character that made you angry or you felt a 'sting' examine why. Is it just a little bit true?

Change your behaviour and your attitudes to something that edifies you, builds you, strengthens you, and makes you a better person.

We are all in the same boat here bailing with you.
We may or may not get our spouses to understand us and return.
We're all working to learn, heal and better ourselves.
We all hope.

It's your choice.