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Just caught up on your sitch and I can totally relate. My W while diagnosed shows all the signs and she even goes on sites too. Here are some quick tips that have worked for me.

1. Stop snooping, not only will it hurt you, it will destroy the positive energy you will get from GAL. It is hard to stay positive after snooping. This is whether you find something or not.

2. Yes your W is WAW a lot of the same behaviors and motivations are there. The only difference is that yours like mine feels the extreme highs and lows of those emotions more. For example a fight for her during a low will be that much more emotionally devastating, at the same time the high she gets from these OM is that much more intense. I truly believe the both of us are in slightly harder sitch's. If yours is anything like mine I bet she is down right evil in the things she says and does. Then hours later will be the most wonderful person in the world. You will most likely ask yourself who is she?!

2. So when she goes through lows it's like her world is falling on her. I'm sure you get blamed for a lot of those lows. It's because she can't understand why she feels so bad, why simple things affect her so terribly, why it seems like nothing will get better. That is being in a low, it [censored] for them and all they can think about is how bad things are. Even if they are far from the truth.

3. Unfortunately this unrealistic and often exaggerated low is their reality. They can't see it any other way. Their feelings and emotions are their reality, never forget that! If you try to convince them otherwise they will just resent you for it, claim you don't understand, or are trying to manipulate them.

4. Worse is when they make decisions during a low. They are really making decisions on bad information their brain is feeding them. All they want is to end the unhappiness and may make bad decisions to try to make things better. (affairs, drugs, alcohol, impulsive spending, you name it). So in conclusion they are desperate to run away from their own feelings of unhappiness, this could mean running away from you.

5. Instead they are seeking that thrill and extreme feeling of happiness they can get when on a high. When in a high every positive feeling is magnified, whether it's a fun concert, a nice evening with you, or the attention an OM provides. It is all greatly magnified. They want to go from this l