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My suggestion? Come up with a plan. Send her the pics 50% of the time without being asked... wait for her to ask again the other 50%. Initiate casual conversation that in non D related 66% of the time... wait for her to do it the other 33%.


I think this is exactly what I need to do, the tough part is actually coming up with the right plan. I took some time to step back from everything last night. After thinking about it, things may have changed some, but nothing drastic. So, I don’t think I should do anything drastic either.

Part of me thinks it might be time to take a chance, maybe ask her if she would like to do something with D and I together. Just don’t know if it is the right time for it.

I think I decided to just keep things slow for now, and monitor everything for a bit longer.

For example, last night I did end up sending a pic of D. She always responds with such excitement, to a point where it comes off as she is trying to hard. She responded “No Way! How cute!” I just replied with a smile as to not initiate any follow up conversation. Don’t want to push.

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Trust your gut and instinct on whether or not things have changed. I could tell you within a few days of when I started to sense that things were changing for the better with my situation... and this was later confirmed by my W.


I worry my guts are full of sh!t! laugh

Question: How did you respond to it? Did you initiate the first time together or did she?

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All Im saying Country is what was working for you was being semi detached and being there for her. And you have to continue that.


That’s pretty much where I ended up after thinking more about it all last night. No rash moves. I feel like at some point, I need to pull back a bit and work in the “mystery” again. Just not sure how much time after FIL’s passing I should wait. Right now, I feel like I just need to be there with no games at all.

Islander, thanks for checking in man.

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