The big punch

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So i send her an email with rough topics i wanted to talk with her. No details in the email.

Just got back an email from her saying that she wanted to keep this visit about daughter and did not want any of these topics to affect that visit. She said we could talk about these next week.

I guess thats fair enough.

yesterday i did tell her in the convo that i felt that if a husband and wife just care about each other and in sync with each other, the marriage will survive, she said "Thats is what i kept telling you but you did not listen".

Yup, i did let my feelings that my daughter is away from my parents drive me to be depressed. But at the same time, wife never put her family outside of our pciture. Her entire family was always a part of our marriage. Anytime i said i wanted to spend quiet time with wife and daughter rather than visiting her family, she would get so upset. So i am not sure how she thinks that she was being good in that regard. What i did fail was to set good boundaries. I let cross them and violate them and i let these drive me miserable. Now i know...