It is funny Islander how that happens. I havent gotten to your stage yet. I think it would be difficult to piece after all that went down. I know I could forgive her but her choice in OM has me so confused, and this whole town for that matter. I am so sick of people here trying to be nice to me by making comments about him. Even yesterday when I bought my new washing machine.
I also KNOW that i could live without her now. I think that it would take meeting somebody else to really have that final push.
I know that I am not ready for that just yet.
Im glad that you really feel that way Islander. We dont know what the future holds though.
Its important to keep your head throughout and not make any rash decisions.
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Finished coaching soccer. My youngest wasnt there as he is at the Alice Cooper concert. Trying not to think about and doing ok with it. Saddens me a little that i am missing a good time with my boys. They loved the KiSS concert and they are now old enough to enjoy things like that.
Before I get too involved in that thought process, I think of something else.
They will be home late tonight, I have to do some parenting with oldest. He is not doing well in school again and I have to really lower the boom on him about that. I have been a little lax in the authority role for awhile becasue I felt sorry for all he is going through but I have to take away priveledges.
Thought about not letting him go to concert for a fraction of a second but not really. Too short of notice and I dont think that would have helped.
No matter what is going on with ex, must always think of boys well being most of all.
Also spending alot of time on the phone with my heartbroken friend. She is really having a tough time getting through her days. Talk about ironic as that was me just afew short months ago when she was talking me through my days.
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Kids got home about 12:30. Youngest was wearing a concert t-shirt and his face was made up to look like Alice. Its funny, when I suggested we all put on KISS make up last summer, W balked at it and thoght it was a silly idea.
W: Why do you always have to go overboard, why cant we just watch the concert.
It really isnt an issue, I just noticed it thats all.
Both boys were exhausted and went to bed. Little one still wants to cuddle. He is 11 but is so affectionate and always has been. Im not sure how I felt. I guess a little empty and a little jealous. I am glad my boys had a great time but there was a twinge. Not as big as I thought it would be , but it was there.
The next morining, I unfortunaltey had to lower the boom on oldest son about constant underachieving at school. I let him go to concert but stripped him from all electrical devices till marks improve or at least effort does. didnt make me feel good and he thought it was unfair.
They told me about the concert and about the theatrics that Mr Cooper did. I love that kind of stuff. Twinkle in their eyes was awesome. Oldest told me when MOM went to bathroom, he looked at his brother and said;
" Wish dad was here".
What a sweetheart. Im glad he enjoyed himself though. Truly I am .
We are going to go away to see my parents this weekend. Youngest wants to see Thor this weekend. So since we are in the city, why not.
HOw about a Thor joke to lighten things up a bit since we are on topic.
JOKE TIME:
Thor was looking down from Asgard towards earth (midgard) and decided it was time to go down to earth and have relations with a mortal woman since its been a while.
Being an attractive god, he had no trouble meeting and picking up a female mortal. She was beautiful , only flaw was a small lisp.
He eventually took her back to her place and they engaged in sexual activity for quite a long time. Again, Thors , god like qualities were far advanced from a mere mortal and proceeded to have sex for hours without climaxing.
After about 2 hours of this, the girl excused herself and went to the bathroom.
Thor was thinking to himself, I better let her know who I am because she will have guessed something is amiss, no mortal can do what I have done.
When she got back, he stood up, put his hands on his hips looking very god like and enounced, "BY the way , IM THOR"
She replied, : " YOUR THOR? IT hursts when I pith. (piss)
Bada ba.
Anyway, sorry for the bad joke but I believe one was needed.
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Its important to keep your head throughout and not make any rash decisions.
nine,
wow, your W is bringing OM around the children!
That is no good for the kids.
About keeping your head,
Know what you morals and codes are in life and base your decisions on them. Start reading....Hold on to your NUTS. This will help you determine what you value.
Once you start making decisions based on your values, you will feel great. Trust me, it gets easier.
You may come off like a jerk in the beginning b/c you haven't made your decisions from your values. That's OK. in time you will earn the respect from others.
Going on two years now since my bomb. Still working on the D details.
gr8
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Great to hear from you Gr8. She only brings him around youngest.
Oldest wants nothing to do with him. Im getting a handle on it.
Yes it bothers me as youngest thought mom and dad were solid in November but now this. But he likes everybody so he appears to be handling it well and i am doing my best to keep him grounded.
I dont want him upset anymore than he may be.
A tightrope soemtimes but he must come first.
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Sandi: I didn't see your comment. Yes, i suppose the boys are old enough to pick out a gift. Maybe they can give her one on top of this since I already have it ear marked for her.
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Anytime man. I was just reading your post when i went back.
Hang in there.
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