25 has put everything so perfectly for you. I really hope you truly listen to what is being said. It is awesome that W is asking to bring food back or asking if you are ok, but DON'T make her worry about you. As said, you are NOT the victim. When everyone is saying give her time, it means time to think, not where you shut down. It is all a very fine line that you have to maneuver through. Be there and support her without pushing her. W asking to bring you back food is a really good sign,I hope you used that instance to show her that you appreciate her thoughts and instead of making it about you, turn it right back around to her by saying "thanks for thinking about me, but I am ok. I really hope you have a great time with the girls because you deserve it." You need to make her your #1 priority.
Side note to 25 - thank you for sharing your sister's story. My D is almost finalized and I had a H that was also very selfish and I am the giving one. It gives me hope to know there is better out there.
Me29 S3 H left 4/1/09 I file 8/2/10 Divorce final 5/17/11 1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52 2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg 3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89
