Get the big picture here, not the minutiae. You are using a microscope to measure each % and it's not cool. I understand this is new and you are working things out. Thing is, you didn't address her BIG PICTURE concerns or what I said. She has some good points. As for your d13, first-"implied" is appropriate language and you have to watch your language big time. Also, clearly your d8 is feeling responsible for you in a way she shouldn't. This is why I tell parents "the kids are watching" and to remember that we are modelling for them, the behavior of a gracious strong man of honor, facing hardship. Not an angry man who is measuring tit for tat under the guise of "best for the kids".
BTW I don't think that's the only thing going on here KD.I think you ARE dragging them into some $%^&* and you have to stop that. And you need to reassure your w that you will put their happiness first and that any past hurt your d8 saw is old news...and make that true. I know you want to put them first but like many of us, you can talk yourself into something that isn't quite truthful. We've all been there.
good luck
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