Opening the cage is "counter intuitive". I know, it feels like giving up, but remember. You do not control her. So many DBers feel they have to have control. Until they realize they don't have it, they try to hang on and hang on, just prolonging the agony. Don't be afraid to let her have what she wants. Is she is in a state of mind where she's going to get what she wants one way or the other? Only you know. I'm telling you this because I have been through it. Of course there are exceptions and WAW's can change their minds. You have to intuitively crawl out of the sitch and think objectively, dipassionately. Difficult, I know. But for your own sake, to make you more attractive to her, try not to be a source of misery and discomfort for her. You may have to get out of the friggin way. Think objectively.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
