Back here again - why oh why?

[lovehurts2]

I still say go to counseling regardless.

DG, i will plan to still go but by myself and definitely with another C. I've been hurt for all these years i need some insight on why i have put myself in this sitution.

Lovehurts2

Ok so I bet that most of your friends and relatives and even your mc (shame on her!) are telling you that you are young and that you have your whole life ahead of you and blah blah blah. I hear this all the time too, and I think it's sad. Its indicative of society's willingness to throw things away when they get too hard, and our inability to find happiness and fix what we do have.

Your right there, they all believe that i since i still have my whole life ahead of me that its ok to cut my losses now. And that "young marriages" are not as worthy as fighting for "older marriages" Even the MC said that to me. Your right, her way of counseling was probably not the best option for us. Yes what she said was somewhat true, but she didnt touch base on how we could of resolved things. I didnt need to pay good $ to make someone tell me its over.


LG,

yes i think i will need to find someone who is more pro marriage. But what is the point if its over? Should i be going to a MC even though we are broken up and he doesnt want anything to do with me? Wouldnt a Pro marriage C give me some kind of hope when there might not be?

LH,

Its still an opinion that they give, I sometimes think its a test to see just how much we want to try to make it work!

Its going to be more than a battle, more like war, are you up for the challenge alone?

Yes it was an opinion she gave, and when she did give i couldnt stop crying. She obviously knew i wanted to make it work, and countless times H would say its over, i dont want it to work.

I can go C on my own and a small part of me does not want to give up but when the time comes and H has OW, then i will be devastated.

Everyone is absolutely right, to GAL and fix my own issues as i never want to carry it around like baggage. No one is going to find a nagging jealous girl attractive.

Yes ill concentrate on fixing myself but i know it wont fix the marriage because even if i do get my crap sorted H has his own demons and insecurities that he will never tell anyone let alone a C. ( He even said to me before C "you better not say anything about my insecurities or im walking out on the session" He is definitely having a MLC, as he is now talking more care of himself.

I also, made the big decision to move out this weekend. This mean we will be 2 hours apart in different cities.