Long talks today. She is adamant that our R is over, but feels like she is losing a tremendous amount, by losing me and my family. Hopes that we can still keep in contact after the D. Has agreed to go to at least one MC session.
She cannot continue to be so unhappy/depressed, but admits our R is only one part of a much bigger issue. Going through with the D and moving out of town makes her feel like she is doing something for herself. She thinks we needed to work on our R several years ago, and now it is "too late". I asked her for more time to work on our R, and told her that when it was clear that it was me that was fundamentally the cause of her unhappiness, that I would be first to call it quits. Also told her not to give me the time if she was not going to give it 100%
Why do I feel like I am doing everything wrong here? Where do I go from here?
How you feeling here is how i am feeling now. Our sitch in some ways similar. H is adamant that the M is over and that its too late. That the M has run its course.
I don't know how valuable my feedback is because im in the gutter also.
Is yourself that is initiating the R talks?
Me: 28 H:30 M:19/03/09 Renewed vows in home country: 19/03/10 Together: 7 1/2 years Married : 2yr 3 months S:26/06/10 reconciliation started: 1/10/10 Separation 2: 4/5/2011
