A good reason not to date until D is final if there ever was one. Give yourself a break. Try to GAL, without another woman, and see what it's like to just be yourself for a while. Really you've got to like your own company before anyone else can, anyway.
Money is a huge worry, and I don't mean to belittle it, but the money isn't worth your health, neither is your M for that matter. (Can I say that here? )
Are you interested in splitting custody? It will probably take just as long to determine maintenance if you're at odds about that issue as it would to determine custody.
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