I read the DR book many long ago and obiviously in need of refresher. I have found your words very helpful and have backed off. You are correct it feels as if someone has died and I need to allow her grieve that death. I have backed way off. So much so that she emailed me at work today to ask if I was ok. I was fine but I hadnt emailed her to wish her good morning like I have for months. I told her that I just did not want to bug her since I know she is normally very busy at work. She is out on a girls night tonight. I told her to have a good time, she offered to bring me back some food. But I am going to continue to back off and allow her to come to me when she is ready. As for me I start my counseling on Saturday, so that should be fun.
