It really doesn't matter whether the discussion happened or not and debating it doesn't change a thing. Reality is we can only truly control what happens on our own watch. We can suggest, plead and/or threaten but the absent spouse is going to do what they are going to do. Your daughter is a smart one. She has grown strong because she has her momma as her example. I don't think she will put up with such disrespect for long. She will be okay.

I don't see the harm in him choosing to wait to discuss issues with his therapist before dealing with things. He recognized a weakness in himself and proactively dealt with it. You will be better off believing that therapy helps rather than he is using it as some sort of weird crutch.

Hang in there, Kissak. Don't let it get to you. Remember to just control what you truly can.

*hugs*
~ swl

Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}