Well, you might not be, but one of the things that is hardest to learn is that you can only control yourself and your actions. You can't make her participate.
There's a speech that someone (TrueGritter maybe?) posted that a lot of people here have used/adapted that captures the essence of letting go:
Quote:
W, I've told you before that I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But I understand you are not happy, that you do not feel happy or complete inside.
You need to do what will make you happy. By my side, we live as partners, we share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team.
I won't stand in your way. But I also will not help you leave this marriage or this family. And I will never accept another person being a part of our life together.
I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be.
25 also mentions often to be the person that only a fool would leave. It's for you, but the side effect CAN be that it brings your SO back to you. Either way, it prepares you for moving on to bigger and better things, whatever they may be, with your SO or not.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
