If I just get out of her way, that is just giving up. I have changed my perspective markedly in the last 18 months or so, and still feel we have a fighting chance. But she has to participate. She has to want to work at it.

If she has just given up, I feel it is hopeless. Someone please tell me I am wrong.

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012