If she has filed, she still has to have you served. You need to be prepared for that, both emotionally and legally.
If she thinks leaving you will make it all better as you say, you may have to just get out of her way. She may have to experience that freedom and independence for herself in order to get it out of her system.
Sometimes they feel so trapped that the only thing you can do is open the cage. That's from James Dobson's "Love Must Be Tough". Only you know her.
Heed my first words, and don't let fear dictate your actions. When the bomb dropped on me, fear of losing my W, of failure to save my M, of economic impact, of all sorts of scenarios ran amok in my mind and almost drove me crazy. It was all for naught. She had me served and we're two weeks from final decree.
This poem by Rudyard Kipling helped me gather myself:
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
