Tough Love

[Queen_of_Swords]

I think your next step should be to phone a DB counsellor and get organised about how you want to approach this.
Things can take a long time. If you're at all interested you can read about my own ups and downs. I thought I had tried everything too, problem in my sitatuion is/was it's taking a long , long time to see any movement forward and what movement there is appears to be glacial. Perhaps that's what's going on too in your situation.
If your W didn't care she wouldn't ask questions about who you're with or where you are. The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference.
If she didn't have some feeling for you she'd be disininterested. You still have an opportunity to DB your butt off, and get some clear perspective and vision on how to do it properly and well.