Back here again - why oh why?

[LearningPatience]

Right now he is trying to push you away so he is saying hurtful things to get you to leave. Who knows, maybe he wants to be able to cry and say you left him? Make himself out to be the victim?

I still say go to counseling regardless.

My W admitted she was trying to get me to leave her at one point for just this reason. Thankfully, that phase didn't last too long for us (not that limbo is all that much better). Maybe it won't for you either. Time will tell.

I agree, still go to C, alone if you have to, but you might want to think about a different C, one that's more pro-marriage.