LH, I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. Frankly, I'm shocked that your C said the things she said! If it were me, there's no way I'd ever go back to that C.

One thing to keep in mind is that it isn't over until you say it's over. Yes, DB does give you the sense that you can turn things around in your R, but the underlying point is that this is a side effect of the real purpose, to make a better YOU, one that only a fool would leave (credit to 25 (I think) for coming up with that phrase).

It sounds like you've been doing the 180/GAL but reverted to previous ways. I think the only way these techniques work is if they become ingrained in us so that they become second nature. You 2.0 so to speak. Again, they're for your benefit with the side effect of possibly reigniting a new R.

Yes, feel your sorrow and pain, but then get back up and put them aside, a minute, 5 minutes, an hour, a day. Hang in there!


Me 43 W 38
M 5 T 7
SD20
S15, S13 with 1st W
ILYBNILWY June 2010
Separation/Bomb July 2010
Divorce Feb 8, 2011