Seperation 8 months after DDay

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By controlled I don't mean controlling. But my W and I have basically been seperated in the same house. At the MC we argued because she is still lying. She sticks with I don't want to be married right now but will not answer the question od Do you want a divorce. But she will say change is good and maybe some space will be good.
So I agreed especially because she is still lying that is a huge issue for me. We have a seasonal place it increases her commute. The kids stay with me in the marital home. I cannot/ will not stop her from seeing the kids. And they can go with her when they don't have school.
Back to the controlle seperation, by that I mean having an agreement a contract sort of speak that. Says during a 3-6 month time period we will not seek divorce we will goto counciling. This is how bills will be paid. We can date each other. We agree or disagree on dating others ( that I think would just complicate things) and there were a few more things.

Whst I hope to gain from this. Hmmm a guidance a roadmap, because limbo is aging. A means to a healthy end or recovery I prefer recovery. A starting point to end this limbo. I said I would give it my all to save it after. Her A I am not done yet.