Kee, I think you are making a good step towards focusing on you and your future. If your H is still doing the MLC behaviors, and you seem so spent from all of it - I believe you are making a great decision.
You must do what is right for you. Our sitch's sound awfully familiar. My H is out for the 3rd time and is just not the same H that I married and had a great 13 yrs with before his crisis.
I am proud of you for being able to say you recognize that he is just a different person now. And not an admirable one, just the same as my H. The whole town thinks he is going crazy.
Keep in touch after you move. I know your not in the DBing mode anymore, But you can still be of guidance to others,and you can share new updates on your move here with us. It may bring inspiration to others that are thinking of doing the same. If you were brought up in a loving and good family I think it will do you a world of good. And going back to school will open up all sorts of new horizons for you.
