Starsky - there is no affair to cover up as far as she thinks. She is openly involved with her boss and believes she has the right to be since we are separated and she is "done". She told the kids "right after we first slept together". She feels I have no right to say anything about her life now and I suppose I don't.
A distinction without a difference, BTM. You're still covering up for her, to your kids. Lying by omission.