Blue,

Just saw your post. I think maybe the way to help answer your question is to ask you to describe how you envision the controlled separation taking shape. I would say there is no right answer, every one is different. You do have to keep in mind though that its not really something you can plan too well, the only thing certain in life, but especially at at times like this, is uncertainty. Either way, let the board know how you see it playing out and some great advice should follow.

I wish you well


M-34
XW-32
D-7
Found OM's presence 4/09
Separated 12/09
Divorced 8/10
GREAT relationship
as coparents since 8/10