You can succeed. You will. You can do this. For you. For your children.
It is up to you to show them how to navigate through life's trials. Sorry, but your xh is not going to do it.
Let's take this one thing at a time.
Look at where you were. Look how far you've come.
Think about what you have already survived. His addictions, his leaving, his affair, his MLC, the divorce.
You have gotten through all that. You have been there for your son and your other children. You have shown incredible courage and strength.
No one knows what the future holds. You are not alone, IB. You have family and friends who love you.
We may want a mate, but we dont need one to survive.
It's time for you to start looking inward. Really and truly looking.
Happiness never comes from other people, It is a choice. It is a conscious decision each day to look at things from a healthy, positive perspective. It comes from within.
These are not just platitudes, IB.
So, try not to think about him and her because whatever you're imagining is most surely not what it is. I can almost guarantee you that. I'll tell you why. He is still broken. As long as he is, he is incapable of having a normal relationship.
Whatever time they spend with your kids will never replace your time with them. And you want your kids to have a relationship with their father. That is what is important.
I know it is hard, but it really does not serve you well to think about them.
You have gone through a whole lot in a short amount of time. sweetie. Go easy on yourself. This is all a process. Sometimes you take two or three steps back.
The important thing is to get back on the path.
It's start to think about you. What can you do that will fill you up?
What did you always want to try? What do you wish you were better at? What is on your bucket list of places to go?
You CAN succeed with this hand. You can more than succeed. You can soar.
Try something different. Spread your wings a bit. Your son is old enough now for your to start living your life.
