Originally Posted By: greenblue90
....Sex on her terms is a big deal to her. somehow I need to change her misconceptions of what sex means to men and what it should mean to us.

Phew Yoga was hard, it's not for the weak....


As to yoga, did that a long long time ago. Untrained bodies don't want to bend like that. I use to sit in a full lotus for hours, no more.

As to sex for me. The following url has some interesting insights that resonate with me. Article by Juli Slattery --Focus on the Family

However, what really got my wife to better understand my sexual needs was a combination of my talking to her and our sex therapist talking to her.

We have had some interesting discussions since our SSM ended. Once I told her that if I ever could no long have sex with her in any shape or fashion that it was time to consider medical assisted suicide. She recoiled in horror to that comment. I pointed to the books I had shared with her like Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight telling how important physcial touch is between two people and how babies will die if they don't get the touching they need. It is still a taboo topic, but I think she has heard from me, from some books she has read, and from our sex therapist how important sex is to me.

Go forth with your packing and planning. Reinforce her good behavior and don't let your wife suck you into fights. Visualize happiness and work on your GAL.

Good luck.

>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.