I am looking for advice,because given the chance I would like to salvage what is left of my marriage.
You are given the chance, Chris. You are in that time frame right this minute. This is the chance you keep begging to have.
Here is what I have seen from the writings of other men. They want to be assured that the W will be 100% into the M. Before they do any work, they want to know that she is willing to put her all into the M. It's like they don't want to take a chance of wasting one day of "trying" if she isn't going to guarantee him that she'll stay in the R and work just as hard as he does.
I want you to realize something very important here. The burden of proof is not on your W. She doesn't owe you any trust. All the burden of proof is on you. Stop trying to get her to go to MC and to talk about the R. Just straighten up and start doing the work that you need to do on yourself. Every day that she doesn't walk away...is another chance she's giving you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
