Sounds like you are still gauging her a little and I would suggest you stop. Your contact with W is pretty limited, when you do have contact make it light and short, if you do this I think it will built into more contact. Either way you will never be rid of each other, you have a child together.
I know keeping these convo's light is hard to do but it is necessary.
5LL is an AWESOME book. I suggest you read chapter 12 several times. Once you read it you will understand why it is the book I suggested my XW read. She intends to.
What Alamo said is absolutely true, you BOTH stopped speaking each others love language, when we first start out we like to blame ourselves for everything but in reality both parties have contributed to the demise.
You will learn your lessons, let her learn hers.
This will come with time but as 25 has said let life teach her lessons don't do it for her.
It is funnny how how much in control they seem to be in, in some cases this could very well be the case in most, it is NOT. They project the image they want you to see and since you are weak and devasted you eat up every word, facial expression, gesture and obsess about it for days or weeks.
After awhile you really become tired of doing this and little by little you stop.
You will continue to stand for this thing whether you are M or not until YOU no longer want to. For the mean time just keep learning and practicing.
