Talked this morning...wasn't really about R or D, more about the future of our M. What led to it was that my W has been sleeping constantly when she is not at work or not on the computer. She spends little or no time with her S and I think is starting to feel guilty about it. She brought all of this up, I told her I was concerned about her well-being, she asked about mine and we went from there.
I told her-as gently and lovingly as I could- that living as roommates was very difficult; that I'm trying to give her the time and space she says she needs but also that I would not spend the rest of my life in a loveless marriage; that we both deserve to be happy but we need to be honest with ourselves and each other if we could not see our happiness in being married to each other; and that although I could do nothing about whatever decision she comes to, I would not beg her to stay or stand in her way.
Did I show my hand too much? Don't know. She did tell me she's going to our friends' home this Friday and spending the night there; that stung because it used to be us going to their home. Feels like we're entering the "divide up the friends" stage.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
